#160. A Masterclass in the Art of Focus

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Dr Marisa Lee Naismith  00:00

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Dr Marisa Lee Naismith  02:11

It’s Marisa Lee here, and I’m so excited to be sharing today solo round episode with you. Whether you’re a member of the voice, community, or beyond your voice is your unique gift. And my mission, which has been inspired by my own personal and professional journey is to empower you to share your gift with others. Now is the time for you to discover your voice in life, develop a positive mindset and become the best and most authentic version of yourself to create greater impact. Ultimately, you can take charge, and you can become the director of your own life. It’s time for you to live your best life. It’s time now for a voice and beyond. So without further ado, let’s go to today’s episode. My goal here right now is to share some additional focal points with you because I truly believe that in our lives, there are other key areas that we can always be focused on. And choosing to focus on improving each one of these, I believe can give a person purpose and can give a person an extraordinary amount of growth, if they focus on them. Many people struggle to find purpose, and maybe your purpose is just to improve the overall quality of your life in all areas of your life. But overall, I think it’s a good idea to focus on inching forward, working on improving in all areas of your life so that you’re in alignment towards growth. Obviously, there are times that there’s parts of our lives that fall out of balance. And sometimes there’s an area of our lives, we just need to give more focus to because it’s got out of balance. The problem is that we’re usually so busy in one area of our lives that we end up neglecting another and I get that and we shouldn’t have any guilt or bad feelings about that. Just realise that sometimes it’s important to re engage and start improving on every area of life at the level that we can as individuals. I believe that with these areas I’m about to introduce If we have goals for them, and we keep them on our radar, sort of like our brains dashboard, if you will. And we’re always aware of how we’re doing in each one of these areas, we tend to improve our quality of life so much faster. So, in order to find the person of your dreams, you have to become the person of your dreams, live the life of your dreams, you must take accountability for your own life first. And that’s what gives us the immense desire to develop greater knowledge, skills, ability and talent in our lives. So that we feel that total sense of mastery, personal power, achievement, and success. Some of you may associate this desire of achievement and success from a greed perspective. And this is not what I’m talking about here. It’s not for money, wealth, status, fame, or power. It’s about having the desire and the focus to embark on a journey to grow into the type of person who deserves all of those things. It’s about trying to become a better version of yourself, to be proud of yourself for the actions that you take in your life, to wake up every day excited about the day ahead. So ask yourself, how are you turning up in every area of your life every day? Are you taking charge of your life? If not, do you have what it takes to take charge and to take centre stage in your life? Look, I understand nothing in life is easy. And at times to achieve what you want in life, there is going to be struggle, there’s going to be hardship, there’s going to be challenges. But all of these are going to make you a better, stronger person. So don’t shy away from the stormy seas and sit at a harbour watching life go by and think maybe one day, it will be your turn. No, it’s time now, to set sail, to have that desire to reach a new destination for a greater and more meaningful life. You can grow into the person who is ready to experience the journey of achieving all those things you desire. It’s time to reach another level of joy, significance, abundance and wealth in your life. And to desire wealth. Once again, it doesn’t mean that you are greedy. It can be a desire for the wealth of health, the wealth of meaningful relationships, the wealth of things such as love, compassion, kindness, connection, and contribution. People want to improve their lives, but they don’t know where to start. We’re going to look at the building blocks of achievement, the mindset for success. This means that we’re going to take a good look at your life, really dig deep, do some soul searching and go through some of those things that happen in your day that cause you to lose focus, and where you’re sabotaging, where you’re losing your winning edge mindset. Here are the five key areas of your life, which I call the five DS where you need to create focus and I challenge you to give yourself a score out of 10 for each and tell me honestly, how you’re performing in each of these areas over the past few months.

Dr Marisa Lee Naismith  09:19

Number one, the very first thing we must have to achieve anything in life is the want and the desire. Life demands that we ourselves must decide who we want to be in life, what it is we want in our lives and what our lives stand for. In other words, we must know for ourselves, what are the very things we desire? And then only then can we go after them. Desire means that you have a want and you want it really badly, you must desire to succeed and to be fulfilled. There’s no shame in saying that you have to be hungry in life, you have to have a deep desire for a dream for a mission, for a cause, or for anything that you care so much about, that you will do anything to move the needle forward to achieve it. Don’t be one of those people who say that they simply don’t have any vision or desire for their lives. Because this is the worst headspace to be in. Usually, when we arrive at that place in our lives, we can spiral into a place of suffering from things like depression, or loneliness. It’s where we can start to have those terrible negative thoughts of throwing the towel in on life, and to lose the desire to get up each morning. The sad thing is that most people who have no desire can often become a victim of this lack of desire. They blame everyone else for how they feel. It’s as though it’s the fault of the world and nobody gave them the desire for anything. And their behaviour reflects this. This is such a terrible way to live. And it’s just not going to get you anywhere, except stuck in the place of life, where you are right now. The reality is that you’re never going to have any vision for your life. Unless you’ve never seen the world outside of your front gate. It’s hard to have a vision for yourself. If you don’t step out of the security of your white picket fence, you have to get outside of your house, you have to get away from the computer, the phone and the television. In life, you have to experience a heap of things to know exactly what it is you really care about, and to sample different things to discover what it is you truly desire. No one wakes up in the morning magically knowing what they desire of life. Desire is built on experience. Desire is built on exposure to things. So go explore the world, read books, ask people what they do, see what’s out there. But whatever that looks like for you, we must all have the want, and the desire before we can take charge of our lives. If that sounds too overwhelming, you can go seek other people who have found their desire in their lives and ask or observe what they’re doing. Surely you must know at least one person who has a vision for themselves. Surely, the three biggest decisions we make in our lives are how we think about ourselves, who we give our love to and what we do for money. They are the biggest decisions you’re ever going to make. To take charge of your life, you must focus on the ambition, or the desire that you have, then go and develop the competency that you need to earn it and achieve it. People Achieve through intention and hard work. They get their hands dirty. For me, I don’t worry about the goal being realistic or not the me if you have a goal, and your heart is in it, and your mind is in it, you can do absolutely anything in life. So don’t let anyone tell you what is realistic and achievable or not. If anyone tells you that you can’t do something, I suggest you run as fast as you can in the opposite direction from them. You need to get away from these people. You can’t let the people you share your goals with tell you what is realistic. If this was the case, I would never have become a professional singer. I would never have attended my first audition that’s led to my first job performing as the lead singer of a professional band at the age of 15. You know I got the whole Who do you think you are? You really think you’re good. And that came from boasts family members, including my own mother, you’re just a kid. Can you imagine? When I was in my 50s? And I told people I was going to do a PhD? Can you imagine the backlash that I received? Can you imagine when I told people that following my PhD, I wanted to write an academic textbook. When I told people that I was after a publishing deal, when I told people two years ago that I was going to start a podcast, if I hadn’t listened to these village idiots, I would not have achieved anything in my life. No one believed that I could do any of these things. And you know what, I proved them all wrong. Whether it was defiance or not, I still did it. I let my results speak for themselves. If anyone tells me that I can’t do anything that multiplies my desire, by at least 1000 fold, I will do everything I can do to prove someone wrong. I have always worked at what I desire, I have clarity, about what I want. And I have the focus. And I have always said about developing the skills and the knowledge I need to achieve my goals. So let’s write to your desire right now. Where do you stand in this area of your life, with zero being that you don’t care, and you’re sitting on the fence in life, you’re not making any moves, because you don’t want it that badly. You do know what you want, but you are not prepared to do whatever it takes to get there. So that means that your zero, or 10 means that you had that deep desire for a dream for a mission for a cause, or anything that you care so much about, that you will do anything and everything to move the needle forward to achieve it. So where do you rate yourself? And why be honest here? Did you have that desire ever? Have you lost that desire for whatever reason? Or are you so driven that you will do anything and everything and you will not let anyone stop you? Wherever you’re at, just understand to take charge of your life. Learn to stay true to what it is that you desire, set the intention and go, determination will only come if you have the desire, you must desire something, you must want it, you must get excited about it. If you have a deep desire, you won’t second guess yourself, you won’t quit, you won’t delay and you won’t get distracted.

Dr Marisa Lee Naismith  18:27

Number two is direction. I believe the second element of focus and empowerment is direction. You may have discovered your desire, whether it’s a big ticket item or a small one. You may even have set an intention around it. But it’s like, okay, well, what do I do now, some may desire to lose weight, or to quit smoking or to learn a new skill, or have a desire to build a business or to make a load of money. But whatever their desire is, or that ultimate ambition, or their purpose, goal or mission. No matter what you want to call it. It’s not enough. You have to have a plan to back it up. People fail because they have absolutely no direction plan or an inclination of where to start. They don’t know how to arrive at their destination. They have no idea of the hard work that demands and they are not keen on learning to stretch their competency. You need to have direction and if you don’t know where to start, work backwards. Write down your ultimate desire and identify the skills and the tools that you need. To achieve a successful outcome, go and find a class you can take. Is there a book you can read? Is there a webinar you can attend? I mean, there’s so many online courses at the moment that you can take on anything and everything. If they do charge, they don’t charge much. There is so much free stuff you can access. Is there somebody who can mentor you? Is there somebody who’s achieved the very thing that you want to achieve? Well, if you don’t know them, maybe Is there a biography about them? When I set the desire to start my podcast, I didn’t have any direction. So I went and did all those things. I started by listening to other podcasts for at least 12 months, I attended free webinars on podcasting. Till I found a training programme that was the right fit for me, taught by a successful podcaster. I attended online training, or what I called pod school for a number of months. And that taught me all the basic skills that I needed to launch a podcast. I read articles, I joined forums, I did three day live training events with all the successful influences globally. And all the while I had engaged a high performance coach to keep me accountable. That’s a lot, right. Hey, but what did I know about podcasting. So by doing all those things, it gave me direction. I had never started a podcast before. And there is so so much involved, trust me, and there was no way I was ever going to fail. Failure was not on my radar. I’m way too proud for that. If that’s too much for you, you can start by simply chasing down other people who have done what it is that you want to achieve. You can use their model, you can use their formulas, you can mimic the steps and the strategies they’re followed, you need to have that road map to your destination, you don’t just jump in your car and start driving to someplace you’ve never been to before without setting up your sat nav, or going on Google Maps, at the very least to find those directions. And planning how far it is how much time it’s going to take you to get there. And to be sure that you have enough fuel in the tank to arrive at your destination without the car breaking down. Because it’s Run out of petrol. You cannot arrive at your destination in life without knowledge, information, or wisdom gathering. So let’s write your direction here. Are you a zero? And that means that you haven’t moved from where you were years ago? Because you don’t know where you’re heading in life. You are stuck? Or are you attend and you are someone who absolutely has a plan in life and knows exactly where they’re going and how to get there. You have all your major moves all sorted out. So where are you? And why are you where you’re at right now? And what can you do to improve? If you’re feeling stuck, perhaps it’s because you don’t know what to do. And you’re in overwhelm. If you want to move off that zero rating, I suggest that once you’ve set your desire your goals, step back and plan how you’re going to achieve them by working backwards. If the goal is too big, break it up into smaller steps and work in those little steps. By stepping up it means to start with a really small goal. So if your vision is too big, just break it down into smaller more achievable chunks so that you are not setting yourself up for failure. Work from the end goal and think about working out your five major moves and give them a deadline. Yes, you must give them an I must achieve this by this date. Break down these five moves into steps, tasks, activities and deadlines. Make each one of these components movable. And once that goal is achieved, step up to the next level of difficulty, then continue to step up until you arrive at your destination. And one other little piece of advice here is to be sure to reward yourself at each one of those steps, it will make it so much sweeter to get there. And remember, when you set that bigger goal, don’t think you have to take the bull by the horns, and step up all at once. Work at those smallest steps one at a time, stick with it and go for it.

Dr Marisa Lee Naismith  25:55

Number three is discipline. Once you have identified what it is that you want, and you have mapped out your direction, you then need to have that third component of all achievement, which is discipline, you’re going to have to do the work. And you’re going to have to be more consistent than ever imagined possible. You must be disciplined if you’re going to make your ultimate desires come true. It’s so easy not to be disciplined, I get that. But when you decide to knock on that door of opportunity, it’s going to take work, you need a higher level of discipline each and every single day. You need to set up repeated habits and practices in your life that you do over and over and over again, to move towards your desire. You need to make sure that you’ve cultivated a real discipline mindset that will move your needle forward. People who want to get fit, they have to be disciplined to work out every day, or every other day. It’s vital for them. It’s a real discipline. If you want mastery in any area of your life, you want to take charge of your life. You need to work at it consistently. Doing things once in a while is not good enough. Not only do you risk becoming someone who facts around in life, but you are absolutely ensuring your inability to accomplish mastery, long term growth, success and achievement. I hate to say but discipline is a must. You don’t see any high level achieving person in any profession, or in any sport, who doesn’t have an extraordinary amount of self discipline. They’re absolutely committed to their habits and practices that positively support them on their path to their desire. So sit down tonight and identify what disciplines you need to set in your life. The ones that you need to do consistently every day, in order to achieve the greatness you so desire. That’s where a lot of achievement comes from. It may seem easy, and you might look at other people who are successful and think to yourself, oh, but they’re just so lucky. I don’t believe in luck. Life doesn’t work like that. You make your own way in life. And there’s a price to be paid for that. What people don’t realise is that successful people continue working out their dreams, their goals, their aspirations, every day of their lives. They are students of life and work on self improvement. You don’t see their failures, but they do fail from time to time. So where are you at with your discipline? Are you a zero? And you’re so easily distracted and you’ll use any excuse to not do something that is important or meaningful to you? Or are you attend your power house and you do everything you need to do consistently every day in order to achieve that greatness. you so desire. This sounds like a lot. But if you need help in this area, don’t let it put you off. And don’t think of discipline as a negative thing. The way I look at discipline is that it’s the joyful habit of pursuing your dreams. And that’s why I’ve gotten good at the things that I care about, and the things that I desire of life. And that is the same as how I treat things in my own personal life. I’ve had to learn to become more present at home, and at work and in my relationships. It’s a constant challenge and discipline for me to remind myself to be present, to be engaged, to be connected to be in the moment, it’s a discipline to be a good human being. And you need to have good discipline to be kind to yourself before you can be kind to others. So even in that realm of human relationships, you need to have discipline, to take charge of your life, and to move to that next level that you so desperately desire. You may also need to increase your discipline to have the competency and you have to go all in with your learning. You know, the old saying, education is power. Education is knowledge and knowledge is power. When I decided to develop a property portfolio, I began attending property seminars, I listened to webinars, I read publications about investing in property, I didn’t just go and start buying up without knowing what I was doing and having a plan. When I wrote my book, I went all in with my learning in order to create content. If you have a big goal, you need to put all your chips into learning, you need to be committed and you need discipline to learning. And you need a mindset shift. So you can begin to consume all this information and take it on board. All your focus and all your mental power needs to go into the learning department for achieving a big ticket goal or perhaps any goal.

Dr Marisa Lee Naismith  32:22

Number four is distraction, detachment. Or some of you are not going to like this one. You have to learn to say no to distractions, and detach yourself from every opportunity that comes up, that is not aligned with your heart and your goals. If you get easily distracted, you say yes to everyone and everything. It’s time for you to drown in your sorrow of over commitment, and the negative thoughts that this overwhelm creates for you. This one is so simple, but it’s so powerful. You must have distraction detachment, you must be diligent about managing distraction, because everything and everyone will get in your way of what you desire. Other people give you their agendas, their emergencies and their needs. The world is going to throw 300 new emails that you and 1000 new social media posts a week at you. So there’s so much that can distract you. And your job is to have that desire, that discipline, know that direction of how you can get there and work towards that. So much of commitment today requires minimising and removing distractions, getting rid of all those TV shows you watch. Did you know The average American watches four hours of TV every day, four hours of TV a day over the course of the average adult American life span that ends up being somewhere around 13 years of their lifespan is spent in front of the TV. Does that sound like you think about that you may have lost over a decade of your life. And if you want to put $1 value on that. That means you may have lost nearly a million dollars of potential earning power. But money aside, think about the reality of the last 13 years of life of exploring new places new languages, talents and skills of giving off creating of being with loved ones and serving others. How much time is wasted watching TV Oh only consume instructional videos, stop reading random fiction books only read books related to what you’re wanting to accomplish in life? Do you really need all these distractions in your life? All for what? It’s okay, I promise you that you’re not going to suffer a horrible withdrawal. You can eliminate all these distractions, then they are the distractions caused by your inability to say no to others. Let’s start with people pleasers is that you hands up. You might not think this is you. But by saying yes to everyone, you are allowing others to take charge of your life. Please, it’s time for you to start saying no more often. So if you find that you’re busy all the time doing all the things that others put on your to do pile, and you have no time left for the things that are important to you. It’s time to stop saying yes and stop playing victim. Why do you do this? You must learn to say no and take charge of your life. People who are successful the people that are doing all the things that you’re wanting to do. They are discerning. They don’t say yes to everyone. The more you agree to take on, the more people will think you’re a pushover and they’re going to keep dumping more and more stuff on you. Like all of us, I receive emails all the time from people asking me to action something. And what I’ve realised is that usually when someone sends me an email that is urgent, it’s because they’re disorganised, and they’ve left something to the last minute. So why should I have to pay the price? For someone else being a shambles? It’s time to start saying no. And you putting yourself first. So you don’t experience the agony of prioritising someone else’s needs and their desires before yours. So next time someone asks you to do something that is not aligned with your purpose, just say, No, thank you. You may feel this is Bryson. And it takes Audacity. But the message here is, if you want people to stack more and more on your plate, keep saying yes, I’ve been that person. I have been that person that’s been at everyone else’s beck and call. And I didn’t have time for those things that mattered to me. I was raised to be a people pleaser. Because in the Italian culture, it’s in our DNA to worry about what other people think about us. We don’t want people to think badly about us. And we don’t want people saying that we’re unkind or we’re a nasty piece of work because we say no. It’s in our culture to live our lives, to the standards of others. And it was hard for me to let go of this mindset. But I couldn’t live my life that way. I felt that people were not being respectful of my time. By pleasing everybody. You are simply living your life in defence, and never in offence, and you can’t focus on what matters to you. You must deliver what you promise to yourself, your loved ones, and your community with excellence. Don’t compromise your energy, your relationships, your work your heart and your soul. But other people, you need to establish strict boundaries in your life, if you want to take charge of your life. Okay, it’s time to read your distraction detachment. You ready for this one? Are you someone who says yes, to everyone and everything despite the fact it is keeping you from moving forward in your life? Well, if you’re a compulsive yes person, I’m sorry, but you need to give yourself a rating of zero. But if you’re someone who can detach yourself from every opportunity that comes up that is not aligned with your core values, your heart and your goals. Give yourself a 10 fewer and zero Don’t be hard on yourself. Ask yourself, why is this the case? At what point in your life did you decide that other people were more important than what you were? When did you stop caring about you? I understand, this can happen. That was my life. But it didn’t serve me and it doesn’t serve any of us. Demanding people are no longer my priority. I will not allow my own happiness to suffer just to please someone else. learning to say no, has allowed me to attract only good things to my life. Learn to say good riddance. You cannot please all the people all of the time, it is up to you to teach others how to treat you. And respect is something that is earned. So don’t blame everyone else. You must take charge of your own life and your own destiny, and stop loading around doing everything that everyone else asks the view. It’s time for you to focus on your own purpose and passion.

Dr Marisa Lee Naismith  41:29

Number five, Ah, this one is a hard one to destructive self talk. Is this something that you’re guilty of? How do you speak to yourself? Are you self sabotaging your future life? By the way you speak to yourself? You know, we can spend so much time telling ourselves that we’re not good enough, smart enough, talented enough, routine enough. We may even tell ourselves that good things will never happen to us. They only happen to other people because we are not deserving. But guess what? Our thoughts are not always the truth. They are the stories that we make up in our minds. Some of us are so good at telling ourselves all these untruths, that we become pathological liars. And our brains don’t know any different. But we can change our thought patterns. So we don’t have to destroy the potential in our lives. Researchers estimate that we think about 50 to 70,000 thoughts a day, and that about 80% of those are negative. Wow.

Dr Marisa Lee Naismith  43:01

That really makes you think that is a ridiculous amount of negative self talk. And much of that self talk comes from our past and it stops us from moving forward in life. And did you know that of those 80% of thoughts that are negative, most of those are on repeat. And that self talk will impact on your blood pressure, muscle tension, your body temperature, breathing rate, heart rate, even how much your hands sweat. You know, those are some pretty significant physical reactions to our thoughts. It’s a vicious cycle. It’s a shame really, because our negative self talk affects us in so many powerful ways. If we think something is possible, we’re more likely to make the effort to go for it. However, if we think something is impossible, we don’t even bother trying. If we think we are a good person who deserves to live the best life we can, we will create that life. But if we think that we are undeserving or not capable enough, we will sabotage our own efforts without even realising we’re doing that. So firstly, we have to stop talking badly about ourselves to ourselves and stop doubting ourselves to ourselves. You must stop and catch yourself out in the moments of the day because this self talk will manifest as negativity and will follow you everywhere. It will filter into your energy, your routines and your relationships and it will drag you Down by filling you with self doubt, and resentment. This is not a good thing. I have met some amazing people in my life, who are so incredibly talented, but they are broke. They’re alone. They’re miserable, and they’re just not winning at life. And they wonder why. The problem is that no one wants to be around somebody with bad energy. They are constantly complaining. They are constantly bemoaning life because all they see is the bad in their world. And they spread this negativity in every conversation, they engage with everyone in their lives. They have a woe is me mentality, and they overshare their negative self talk. I’m sure there’s people you know that bemoan life exactly like that. And I hope it’s not to you. Remember, to be where that self talk is a reflection of who you want to become in the future. What you say to yourself will manifest. So when you speak negatively about yourself, whether it’s to yourself, or to others. Negativity attracts more negativity. So be careful what you wish for, you will attract all those things that you’re speaking about. Well, this is something that I had to learn the hard way. As a young girl growing up, all I got from my family was that I wasn’t good enough. I wasn’t smart enough that I was useless. And I was lazy. So talking badly about myself really came easily to me. I didn’t know any better. And it took me a number of traumatic experiences, coupled with therapy than me to realise my true self worth. I had to learn to turn my negative self talk into positive self talk. One example is that when my husband and I lost everything, including our family home about 15 years ago, I realised that negative self talk was not going to serve me in that moment in time, it was not going to help us get out of one of the most difficult situations we’d ever faced. This realisation triggered something in me that completely turned that thought process around. And instead of thinking, I’m not deserving, I started to tell myself that I’m better than this. This is not me. I deserve way more. It’s such a shame that it took loss, including the loss of loved ones for me to realise that I was deserving of a better life. And my new positive self talk completely changed my life around. I know that I’m capable of anything and everything I put my mind to. And I’ve proven that to myself. My mind is so powerful, and nothing is unachievable. If I don’t know how to achieve something, I know I can go and learn how to do it. I’m not scared to give it a go. So how good are you at self talk? Are you constantly putting yourself down and don’t ever cut yourself a break? If this is a case, you are zero. But if your inner dialogue is kind, full of compassion, and you speak to yourself as you would a loved one, well, congratulations, you’re a 10. And if you need help in this area, the lesson here is that it is hard to accomplish good things in your life with a negative mindset. Say something kind to yourself, and about yourself, and see how life changing this can be. We are the person we talk to the most throughout the day. So it’s important to not let that voice play in the background like a radio station. That inner dialogue must be kind and we must learn to treat ourselves better in life. Those thoughts inform what you believe to be true and will directly influence your levels of success. It’s time for you to treat yourself as your best friend. You Not your worst enemy. I hope you’ve enjoyed all these key points that I’ve shared with you the five days. And it’s time for you now to focus on all these areas in your life, it’s time to take charge. Be remarkable become that someone who is redefining their lives, who’s empowering other people, and spreading positivity. You can start today by finding what you truly desire. You need to stop getting distracted and develop purposeful habits to grow your mind to define your motivation to keep yourself on the path you desire in life, choose to stay disciplined on your path of taking centre stage in your life. And don’t be distracted by anyone or anything other than what is going to support you on this journey to success. This is your moment to step out from the wings and become the person you want to become in your life. Remember, your goal and just be improving in each of these key areas. One at a time that said, if you did just that, in the next couple of months of your life, you will improve in all areas of your life. And you will be in alignment. And to have that momentum, you won’t recognise your former self. Even when times get tough. Never let yourself get down on any area of your life. Just keep making small steps of progress forwards, inch by inch, one foot in front of the other and all will be well. So I hope in sharing just some of these ideas with you. It just gives you some ideas on how you can focus better. You don’t have to have all the answers right now. My job in this moment is to just get your brain back on your overall mindset. You know, there’s some areas you’ve neglected and it’s time to throw in one or two habits to improve in those areas. There are some other areas you’re doing great on. And maybe you should start celebrating that and allow yourself some pride and joy. If you’re a hot mess in every area, which I have been. Trust me, believe me. And all these areas are all out of whack in your life, and you feel totally out of control. Please don’t be hard on yourself. Just start with at least one point of improvement in each of these areas over the up and coming weeks. If you’ll dedicate yourself to that, overall, you will feel better. And this is just the beginning. Think about what you’ve learned. Go out there. Stop spending life in the wings. Get out there be extraordinary and take centre stage in your life. You are worthy, you are worth the effort. Always have been and always will be.

Dr Marisa Lee Naismith  53:25

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